All of us have dry spells when it comes to dating. However, if you’re going out multiple nights per week and can’t seem to get anywhere with a single woman, then you’re probably doing something really wrong. Instead of continuingto subject yourself to the ego-crippling rejection that is bound to keep coming your way, you need to sit down and take a cold, hard look at how you’re approaching women.
Below, we’ve listed a few of the top reasons that guys get turned down by women. Look them over as impartially as possible, and try to see if you recognize yourself in any of them. If so, change your ways, stat, or remain dateless for the foreseeable future.
You Are Rude – Some guys assume that all women are just dying to meet and talk to them – so much so that they barge right in and interrupt their targets whenever they feel like it. Walking right up to a woman is definitely a confident thing to do; doing it, and interrupting her curre.
nt conversation, definitely isn’t. Subtlety is critical, so wait for a moment when she’s not otherwise engaged to approach her.
You Are Cocky – Rudeness and cockiness often go hand in hand, but not always. If you can’t help but to go on and on about how amazing and interesting you are to the women you meet, then you’re an epic failure at coming across in a positive light. You definitely have to sell yourself when trying to meet somebody – but you shouldn’t take that advice quite so literally. Instead of pointing out all of your positive attributes, try demonstrating them in understated but interesting ways – you’ll get a lot farther in the long run.
You’re Always Surrounded By “Your Boys” – Wingmen are not exactly a foreign concept to most women, and it’s totally understandable if you’re hanging out with your friends when out in public. However, if you travel around as a posse and approach women that way, you’re going to scare most of them away. Three, four or five guys is simply too large of a group for one woman to contend with; try ditching your pals when you want to chat with
an eligible female, and your luck might just change for the better.
You’re Way Too Drunk – All too often, guys don’t realize just how drunk they’ve become over the course of the night. At the same time, alcohol tends to give you “liquid courage,” allowing you to approach women more readily. Unfortunately, intoxication is not an attractive look for anyone. Learn to recognize when you’re just too hammered to approach a woman, and follow suit.
You Are Too Pushy – Acting as if the woman you’re talking to is bound to be blown away by how wonderful you are – and not taking no for an answer – are extremely unattractive qualities to have. Take what a woman says at face value; if she declines your offer for a drink, don’t pester her about it. Just move on to someone who may actually be interested in you instead.