Your sexual performance is only part of the equation when it comes to being in bed with a woman. Being able to knock it out of the park when it comes to performance is definitely great, but what you say – and how you say it – can make or break a sexual encounter. Check out our definitive list of the ten things women want to hear in bed, and make at least a few a part of your repertoire for best results.
1. Tell Her She's Beautiful
Joe Cocker was definitely onto something when he released his timeless classic “You Are So Beautiful.” Every woman wants to hear the man that she's with say those magic words, and saying them when you're between the sheets is a truly masterful word. Be sure you really mean it, though!
2. Express Your Desire To Make Her Feel Good
Every guy knows that pleasure is a two-way street, and that making her feel good in bed is critical to being a truly great lover. Did you know, though, that telling her you want to make her feel good is like an aphrodisiac? You'll obviously need to act on it, too, but it's a smart thing to say.
3. “I've Never Felt So Good”
Letting her know that the lovemaking session you're currently enjoying is the best you've ever had will help her relax – and it will make her look even more forward to future encounters.
4. “What Are You Thinking Right Now?”
When the action is over, and the two of you are lying blissfully side by side, ask her what she's thinking about. It will show her that sex is about more than pure physical pleasure to you, and that her feelings matter.
5. Tell Her You Want To Take It Slow
Women, as we all know, love foreplay – but often feel pressured to “get right to it.” Right away, let her know that you want to take it slow. She'll luxuriate in the knowledge that an extended foreplay session is on the immediate horizon.
6. Talk About The Future
Assuming that you're in a long-term relationship, feel free to talk about your future together once the lovemaking is through. Women often feel very vulnerable after sex, so letting her know that you're thinking about your future will be positively thrilling for her.
7. “I Like What You're Doing Right Now”
Whether she's trying out a new move – or doing a more standard procedure – be sure to express how great it feels from time to time. Women often second guess themselves in bed – and many men fail to verbally express what they're enjoying – so definitely let her know.
8. Let Her Know That Her Climax Turns You On
A huge number of women feel self-conscious about “letting go” and really enjoying their orgasm. Let her know that hearing her moan and writhe in pleasure really turns you on, and she'll feel much more comfortable doing so.
9. Compliment, Compliment, Compliment
You can never go wrong with compliments, especially while in bed. From her looks to her moves to the way that she kisses – let the compliments fly when you're in bed with that special woman.
10. Throw In A Bit Of Coarse Language
Women know that many men use curse words when they're really feeling passionate about something. Don't be afraid to say something like “Baby, you make me feel so f*%$ing good,” or some other salty phrase, every now and then. Of course, if she seems turned off by that kind of talk, reign it in.